Every single person on this planet was born into this world with a cross to bear. No one has been spared.
There is no doubt some have been handed crosses heavier then another’s but this means a revelation of equal value awaits to bestow an insight of extraordinary proportions if acceptance is exercised. Acceptance means carrying our cross without boasting of the suffering we encounter which, in essence, is the attempt to diminish the value of another’s burdens as lesser or insignificant. This remark is not meant to condemn the bonding that can occur when we are able to talk about our suffering with friends, but our cross is not meant to solicit sympathy from others with loud demonstrations of our hardships.
There is a very attractive power in self-sympathy, almost an addition, that can blinds us to the permission we give ourselves to offend another person who we have had a long standing grievance against and did not have the courage to speak it until in the midst of self-sympathy. This power also has the ability to justify self-indulgences, announcing the certainty that we deserve to live uninhibited, no matter who it might hurt that is in our way. But self-indulgences only feed self-sympathy by stealing joy from others, and drains every nourishment to the soul.
I believe there are those who are truly unaware that they default to self-sympathy because in the past it has been the only way they were able to receive care. But this type of care is only derived from clever ways to guilt the other’s around them to show care which is a coerced care that only feeds a cycle of resentment that can increase to such a degree that their actions will betray the notion, if they cannot have joy then no one can. Stealing other’s joy or forcing others to disregard their own cross as insignificant will increase distance between the heart from the mind, causing the dormancy within non-acceptance because they view their cross as an unfair burden.
The journey of acceptance requires the ability to internalize our suffering. Again, this does not mean to suppress or repress our suffering. But if we can see our cross as a gift from God then, not only, will we find our spiritual identity but it can become a creative muse with which to express a wisdom which can, not only, help restore life affirming values to self but make a contribution to something real which can nourish many and thereby leave behind something eternal.